How he benefits from male chastity

Give him the joy of mind blowing orgasms

As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger.

Give him the thrill of the hunt

Men need the chase, the thrill of the hunt. They don’t value nor respect that which they have won to easily.

Prehistoric man did hunt tame animals to feed their tribes, but it was the hunt for the truly ferocious animal that went down in songs and legend, inspired the art and ornamentation created from the animals remains. Cave drawings celebrated the most challenging of hunts and eventually, as man become more proficient mythological beasts such as dragons were invented to separate the mere mortals from true heroes.

As women, we experience this need for conquest of the truly awesome early on. You no doubt know of girls in school who gave up the prize of their sex easily. While men would flock to them to get an easy lay, they also treated these woman with disdain. It seemed unfair at the time, why could we woman not enjoy sex as much as men? But we missed this essential difference in male psychology: men love to hunt, and when denied the hunt, they turn against the prey.

To get the respect and adoration of a man, he must have to work for it. The greater the effort, the greater his perception of the eventual prize.

When you dated him, I am sure you did not make it easy for your man to simply “capture” you. What resulted was an elaborate courtship and he enjoyed the hunt with your attention and affections as his ultimate prize. For men there is no greater symbol of winning than achieving the sexual relationship with the woman of his desires. To make a home and plant his seed to populate the earth.

While female sexual desire is stimulated by romance, male sexual desire is chiefly stimulated by challenge. The greater the challenge, the greater the sexual desire. No wonder marriages grow stale. As soon as he has captured the trophy, his passion for sex is diminished. We all know men who grow bored after the initial conquest and eventually fade out of our life. Not your husband, he loves you, he cares for you. But his sexual interest may have faded. It is not because he isn’t interested in you physically anymore, but because he lacks the challenge. This then leads to frustration and disappointment for the both of you.

There are many ways to ignite the flames again. In your case, your man has opted for male chastity. While this may seem bizarre to you, it makes perfect sense from his point of view. He wants to love you, but can of course only love you the way a man loves a woman. By finding a way to break the cycle of masturbation and giving away the power to orgasm to his prey (the symbolic ball in the game) he gets to pursue you again, make you a target.

By regulating his orgasms, the chase is back on. He has to conquer you and convince you somehow to let him reach that rare, mind blowing orgasm. Because he is physically much stronger than you and could simply overpower you if he truly desired and because he can masturbate if he doesn’t want to rape you (which most men don’t) he needs to give you a certain amount of power to make the chase interesting again. When men play sports with less experienced amateurs on a regular basis, they will often give themselves a handicap (I’ll play basketball with my left hand behind my back so that I can’t use it) in order to make the game more interesting. He doesn’t look at you as weak, but different (in terms of your physical abilities) thus he simply acknowledges that he must make some changes to the rules of the game to make it challenging again.

Now that he cannot have you anytime he wants, just like you were dating, and cannot achieve the cheap thrill of masturbating, he will naturally start courting you again. In order to make the hunt not all about sex (he could never have been that straight forward about his carnal desires during early stages of courtship) forbid him to ask you directly for sex by adding one day to his chastity for each time he asks. Instead, he’ll have to romance you, flirt with you, pamper you and learn to please his prey, his ultimate desire, slowly wearing you down and getting your panties off.

Give him the excitement of arousal

Deprived of his ability to masturbate at will, his arousal will grow and become more and more all encompassing. The state of arousal is very enjoyable for both men and women. But it is especially strong for men (hence their habit of giving in to it more quickly than women).

Learning how to lengthen the arousal and erection period while delaying orgasm is an important part of maximizing enjoyment from sex. As the erection proceeds, the physical sensations become increasingly more and more exciting, and the psychological pressure to ejaculate becomes more and more intense. The trick is to lean to keep the stimulation just below the level required for ejaculation while learning to deal with the increasing psychological pressure to ejaculate. Like driving a racing car closer and closer to a wall at ever high speeds, the psychological pleasure becomes more and more intense, the longer the arousal can be maintained without ejaculation, but the greater the enjoyment for the man. Furthermore, the longer this stage can be maintained, the more powerful and enjoyable the orgasm will be for the man. Thus, developing skills for doing this and dealing with the psychological desire to ejaculate for as long as possible are essential for the full enjoyment of partner (and solo) sex, and this is what requires practice. Women usually require a somewhat longer period of time to become fully aroused, so being able to delay orgasm potentially increases the enjoyment of sex by both partners.
Many women believe that men are happier the more frequently they can have intercourse. This is not really accurate. What men truly enjoy is being aroused with their partner (and as their partner is also aroused) while both remain in an aroused state for a long period of time, delaying orgasm for as long as is comfortable and possible.
Understanding Male Sexuality by David Sebringsil.

He will experience an increase in sexual excitement, with an intensity he has probably not known since adolescence. Only his game-ending climaxes are reduced to make place for longer periods of delightful arousal.

Give him the gift of frequent sex

Face it, men have a much higher sex drive than women and given the choice he would much rather have sex with you than masturbate. According to Sigmund Freud, the famous father of psychology, all cultures are built on the sublimation of our sexuality. By giving him the tools to forgo masturbation, which he wants but can’t bring himself to, you will sexualize all the acts of his courtship. Bringing you flowers will give him sexual pleasure, because it is a tribute, part of the hunt. Massaging you will give him sexual gratification, as he will feel every touch in a much more sensual way. Pleasing you will give him sexual gratification, because he will show his mastery over your mind, his ability to push your buttons to make you feel happy and loved. It will all be part of the hunt. His goal may be sex, men have a rather one track mind, but the sublimation will be delightful both to you and him. Even cuddling you will make him hot and bothered. Hell, doing the dishes will become erotic if it brings him one step closer to his ultimate goal: the conquest of you through your sex.

Give him the most beautiful woman on Earth

When men see a beautiful woman, they are drawn to her almost against their will. The power that beauty holds over men is not lost on them, and this is why men who are less secure often ask their women to be covered up. Whole religions are dedicated to erasing the female erotic potential.

You have surely noticed how men behave towards beautiful women. They fall all over themselves to help her, make an impression on her. Even women he will never meet. He is stuck in a traffic jam, cursing as he revs his engine at the competitors on the road. Suddenly a car cuts in front of him. He shouts obscenities, then notices the pretty face of the other driver waving her dainty hand at him. Suddenly he calms down and becomes the perfect gentleman, smiling graciously and letting her pass.

Beauty focuses his desires, and since men think about sex roughly 100 times a day, there are lots of distractions. But it also works the other way around. By controlling his desires (read orgasm) they focus to find beauty. You can give him the gift to be married to the most beautiful woman in the world - what a treat for him and impossible as it may seem, you can give it to him. Bare with me as I explain.

Locked in chastity, he will be unable to masturbate to porn. He won’t even be able to achieve an erection when looking at other beautiful women. The only times he can achieve his erection is with you, when unlocked. And because those moments will be more rare due to the constant wearing of his chastity device, these erections will become powerful sensations that he will appreciate and enjoy so much more. Your body will become the only temple in which he can celebrate his arousal, your touch the only thing that can get his otherwise locked penis erect and your will the only thing through which he can achieve his occasional but mind blowing orgasm.

Personally, I would advise also installing Net Nanny on all his devices, to help him overcome his addiction to porn (you’d be surprised how grateful he will be after a few months. More on that later). You should make sure that the only woman he sees naked from now on is you. Premium cable TV can make this hard at times - this is why I’ve asked my husband to look at me during nude scenes under “threat” of longer lock ups without teasing.

Your body and all its luscious curves will become his only playground, the only nudity he gets to enjoy and its allure and reward to him will grow to unimaginable heights. By making your body the central focus of his sexuality, he will discover it in new ways, his appreciation for it will grow and he will drink from a cup that never gets empty. It may sound over the top and a bit over controlling, but the reward for him is experiencing the sexiest woman he ever gets to experience. There is no-one else.

If you could wave a magic wand to make yourself the most beautiful woman ever so that you could please him better, wouldn’t you do that for him? Well, there is no magic wand. But there is a magic key. And it does the exact same thing. Try it for just 3 months and witness the change for yourself.

I should also add that by being the sole focus of his attention, you also no longer need to give him penetrative sex should you not desire this. Some women with a low sex drive don’t look forward to this. But since you are his only “porn”, the only one he sees nude is you. It gives you the ability to forgo the necessities of sexual intercourse and just bare your breasts or sex for him to masturbate to before locking him up again. After a few months, it will be mind blowing to him to experience just this pleasure (and remember, he is looking to chastity to increase the intensity of his sexual releases). I know of a couple on a forum where the female has created a folder of nude close ups of herself that her husband can occasionally access to get himself off. While it is unlikely you will go to that extreme (most of us enjoy a good hard pounding once in a while) I just wanted to point out it is an option, in order to demonstrate that you don’t need to step out of your comfort zone or be forced to have sex more frequently to make this game work. Remember, in his mind, he is already having sex “all the time”.

On the other extreme, you might be the kind of girl that enjoys sex all the time, and he might never get his dopamine rush because he orgasms through penetrative sex every darn day. Tough luck, this game should not deprive you of your basic needs. He wants chastity, not you.

Give him the gift of long life

Ejaculation takes a lot of energy and its toll on the body. Men who ejaculate daily are believed to shorten their lifespan by about 5 years. Depending on the age when you start his orgasm denial regimen, you could add years to his life.

Men also take poor care of their bodies. They eat poorly, drink more than they should, don’t see their doctor’s for a yearly physical, and push their bodies way too hard in general. By adding days to his orgasm denial for each unhealthy activity, you will give him the proper motivation to take care of his body where previously he couldn’t bring himself to do this. He will be healthier, happier and you will get a better looking husband. And you will make it easier for him to choose to live better, by switching his immediate reward (e.g. the delight of fast food) with a long term reward (an orgasm). It will make it easier to make up his mind and not see it as a sacrifice (after all, eventually, he is getting an orgasm out of it much quicker).

While you cannot tell a man what to do, you aren’t taking away his freedom here. It’s all part of the game for him. He wants to eat fast food? Fine honey. As long as you know that I lock fat men up for longer (wink). The exchange is playful, not contentious, not domineering, yet makes it likely that you get what you want.

Give him the gift of dopamine and oxytocin

Men experience a rush of dopamine during orgasm that puts them in a state of ecstasy. However – in most men – the blissful feeling disappears after 5-10 seconds. Interestingly, the surge of dopamine triggers an almost simultaneous burst of prolactin that causes dopamine levels to plummet. The result is a dopamine level that is much lower than it was before sexual arousal began. In addition, an above normal level of prolactin continues for up to two weeks.

Woman receive a peak in dopamine during orgasm, but it doesn’t crash drastically; rather, it subsides in a sequence of steps. Prolactin increases to a level slightly above normal – staying there briefly while dopamine levels return to their normal level. Women’s dopamine levels vary throughout the month based on their menstrual cycle, hence there varying interest in sex during the month.

After orgasm, men experience a hormonal hangover similar to an opiate or cocaine withdrawal due to low dopamine and high prolactin. Dopamine levels fall while prolactin levels rise after orgasm and after stopping an opiate or cocaine. It takes two weeks for prolactin levels to normalize after stopping cocaine.

During a post-orgasm “hormonal hangover” (that can last days or up to 2 weeks) men may look for new highs, such as drinking alcohol, smoking, eating sweets, gambling, video gaming, drugs, watching porn, workaholism, etc. to boost their dopamine levels (I am sure you recognize one or 2 of these behaviors in your man). Some men are so “hung over” they simply fall asleep. All of those things deprive you, your marriage and your family of your husbands active involvement and attention.

The key to the chaste man’s long term, greater feelings of happiness and satisfaction is that although his dopamine levels are constantly being raised above normal, for the several months in between orgasms (or however long you desire), he never triggers the surge in prolactin that lowers dopamine levels the way his orgasm does. Throughout the day, every day he is in his chastity belt, aware that he has turned over control of his orgasm to his wife, his dopamine stays elevated. During sexual play and intimacy, when he is teased and denied, particularly when teased to just short of orgasm, his dopamine level is boosted without triggering the corresponding, counterweight of prolactin to defeat it. Making love to his wife and bringing her to orgasm is incredibly arousing for him, boosting his dopamine levels with no subsequent sudden drop of dopamine level for him because he doesn’t orgasm himself.

Thus he is constantly aroused, experiencing a state “half-way to orgasm” all the time. You will discover that in terms of overall happiness, it is better for him to be half way to orgasm 95% of the time than all the way to orgasm .01% and no way to orgasm the other 99.99% of the time.

What about oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone?” After orgasm and a temporary boost of oxytocin, the chaste man suffers the same fade to below normal levels. But, unlike the man who orgasms frequently, his dopamine and oxytocin levels usually remain fairly high due to the lack of orgasms. The chaste husband spends most of his life with high dopamine and high oxytocin levels with the help of his wife who provides plenty of sexual bate (without the need for actual penetrative sex). Touch and caress, hand holding and massages, warm intimate talks are a regular part of their daily lives and help keep him in that blissful state.

Give him the spiritual high of tantric and taoist sex

Wearing a chastity device may help save his sexual energy for his higher, emotional and intellectual self, thus practising Tantric Sexuality. In Tantric Sex couples use Tantric techniques to reach a higher state through very long, slow intercourse.

Withholding ejaculation has its roots in Tantra; in maithunâ, it is important that the man not discharge his semen because it is considered a precious product of the life force. Semen is transmuted into a finer substance that nourishes the higher centers of the body, which prepares it for the spiritual transformation that is the goal of Tantra. In maithunâ, women may achieve orgasm during the ritual: her excitement produces a vaginal secretion that the experienced tântrika can then suck up through his penis. The female ejaculate is thought to enrich the tântrika’s hormonal system, which further aids in his spiritual transformation. Note that in Tantric sex it is the man who withholds his orgasm for as long as possible, while the woman gets to orgasm as much as she wants.

The Tantric component of chastity is just a natural consequence of the husband not ejaculating - sexual activity becomes slower and goes on for longer - sex becomes more sensual and intimate. For most men who enjoy chastity their sex life will be much closer to ordinary sex than it is to real Tantra, but much that they do will have a slight Tantric feel.

Tantra is also about improving your connection with your partner and with your own feelings. With Tantra the biggest changes are not in what you do, but in how you think and feel.

In Taoist sex, the man pursues multiple orgasms. While male chastity might seem cruel to you at first, it is in fact one of the kindest things you can do - and he has obviously discovered this benefit by asking you for chastity. When you bring your man to a state of heightened sexual arousal and deny him a physiological orgasm he experiences a kind of psychological orgasm. The dopamine levels skyrocket, but without the prolactin to immediately make it crash. The psychological orgasm can be frustrating and very different from a physical orgasm that drains him, but at the same time is highly enjoyable due to the high dopamine levels and is experienced as a multi-orgasmic experience that lingers on delightfully in the body for the duration of his chastity (with the exception of a period up to 2 weeks after orgasming where a male does not get to experience this reward).

Give him the gift of emotional serenity and freedom.

Although they don’t admit it, most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks! Ewww!). On top of that, they feel a burning sensation of guilt for watching porn, a feeling of having mentally cheated on their wives. These negative feelings are probably associated with the high prolactin levels after coitus, but are most likely also grounded in a sense of failing a moral standard. They are slaves to their libido and can't help themselves. It's an addiction. They chase the high of the dopamine. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can't control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he'll feel more in control, like a strong man who releases his sexuality into his wife through daily acts of kindness instead of down the shower drain. He will feel loving and faithful (due to the lack of cheating through porn) and loving. In short, he will feel like a worthy husband.

PS. this is why I also suggested installing Net Nanny on his devices from now on. He will not be able to surf any porn, which in the beginning will be an addiction that is hard to beat. But months later, once the addiction is broken, he will be grateful that you did it. Personally, I would make this a non-negotiable demand for playing along with his chastity fantasy. It will make his desire for you stronger and diminish him demeaning your natural beauty by looking at 18 year old sluts doing unspeakable and frankly unattainable sex acts.

Give him the gift of drive and ambition

Top athletes abstain from sex before every game. This is true for both physical sports (e.g. football) and mental sports (e.g. chess). By keeping dopamine levels high, he’ll feel more positive. Testosterone levels remain high, giving him energy and ambition and aiding in his muscle toning when he works out. Without his orgasms he remains fully charged.

Give him a loving coach

Behind every successful man stands a doting wife. As we discussed earlier, men can make bad decisions when taking care of their health and limited time. Sometimes they are slaves to their passions. But by giving him an overriding passion (his orgasms) you can restore his motivation to do the right thing. By gently coaching him through extending his orgasm denial when he makes bad choices, you will be able to influence his behavior and make him focused, healthy and limit the amount of time he wastes on unproductive activities such as staying in bars with friends until the early hours or playing incessant video games. Use his orgasm denial to have him come home a little earlier or give up his PS4. In a marriage, you will always act much like a polite director instructing an actor. This is a normal and natural part of the couple's dynamic, the difference here is that your tools in the incentive box is his desire for chastity. You will be happier, and he will be more energetic and in control. Women are after all the culture builders in our home and chastity can prove a valuable means of gentle persuasion, dispelling the need for repeated requests he so easily rejects by calling it nagging.

Help him control his aggression

My husband and I have agreed that every time he loses his temper he will be locked up without release for an extra week. It doesn’t matter who started first, who was right or wrong. To make it easier for me, we also agreed that when he acknowledges he lost his temper, he has to state himself that he has earned a week in chastity without any release. We never negotiate on this and always strictly enact it for it to have effect. It also makes it clear to me that his apology is sincere, since he is giving so much up. I am equally punished for my part in the fight, for I have lost access to him for a week. If the mood strikes me to see his beautiful erection or to make love to him, I am reminded that perhaps I should try to be an adult during our next fight.

It created a perfect dynamic in our household where we has a very high incentive not to lose our temper. He has become a master at handling my moods and patiently letting them abate, until he can talk reason to me again. In turn, it has made him a better manager and earned him promotions.

Gift him sexual mastery and pride

By finding alternative ways to turn you on and please your body before he is unlocked, he will become a master at sensuality and bringing you to new orgasmic heights and all that completely on your time schedule. Men take great pride in their ability to give women sensual pleasure and frequent orgasms and as he will grow in his ability to do this for you with or without the use of penetration, his pride in his sensual and sexual skills will grow. When it comes to sex, his attention will remain primed on you, because he doesn’t have the “let down” of his own orgasm that usually erases all interest in sex for him.

He will want to know how he can turn you on, please you better, become an ace at getting you off. This may seem weird to you, but in here is revealed the essential difference between men and women: men love to work to overcome all manner of obstacles in order to successfully gain their prizes. No modern professional football player would value an easily gained victory against a local amateur team. It is the hard-fought victory over equal or preferably even greater odds that has value.

He wants to please you, because if he can conquer your body and mind, he’ll have stolen the Pearl of Baghdad. An act that in his domain, his house, makes him formidable and unique. This may seem egotistic and self aggrandizing to a woman, but men are what they are, and if they were not, we wouldn’t love them.

Now that his prize of an orgasm is delayed by a week to several months, his focus must shift to a new prize. And that is what he wanted all along. Something to put his teeth into (figuratively), a hill to climb, a city to conquer, a feat that will be talked about (at home).

He’ll want to fulfill you, be your hero, become the one you cannot do without. Just like you are his only sexual outlet, he wants to be yours. You are his porn, he wants to be yours, even if that is by satisfying female porn by cleaning up the house, caring for the baby and if you are willing, let him learn about your body and bring it to new heights.

This is the part where he will need some direction and clues from you. And again, don’t treat men like they are women. They are simple creatures. You have always tried to give him directions - either through beguiling him with your female charms, suggesting things in “subtle”, indirect ways, making a passive aggressive comment or by withholding sex. Those ways do not usually work well because the husband usually doesn’t understand what is happening and if he does, he resents being manipulated in such weak and cowardly ways. Men respect strength.

He has handed you a new way to negotiate your relationship on a golden platter. He has asked you to take control over his orgasms so that he can enjoy his arousal and improve his orgasms. This has shifted his prize seeking from getting cheap orgasms frequently to becoming your sex god, your hero (if this sounds silly, remember, he’s a man). You can add to that that he can earn his orgasm, he can go on the hunt, and find obstacles to conquer. Tell him what makes you happy in a straightforward, uncomplicated way. Take your time if you are ashamed that he may judge you for your more kinky or uncommon desires (the hornier he gets, the less he will judge) - just tell him the things you are ready to tell him. Hang his orgasm in the balance (his coveted prize, he is Indiana Jones going for the Arc) and make it depend on him fulfilling you. Tweak his behavior, teach him what you want, give him something to focus on.

Give it a story, a sense of progression. Speak to the caveman in him, that lays his trap, waits for the prey to arrive, hears it first, smells it next, watches it progress slowly but certainly into his trap, once it is cornered in the trap it is besieged. Next the prey gives it its all to escape, but ultimately the man conquers it through a hard fought victory and brings it home, to conquer his ultimate prize, his woman.

In the same way, let him progress through his conquest. One week he gets to see you naked, the other week he gets to eat you out, the next week you will give him one stroke on his member for every compliment he makes about you, the week after that he gets to massage you and bring you to a full body orgasm (don’t know what this is, oh, you will) and eventually he will get to his own prize, his own mighty orgasm, the conquest of a most worthy prey.

Undergoing a trial or challenge is stimulating to the male and is a time-honored tradition that inspired the stories about medieval knights undertaking quests on behalf of their Ladies.

Give him the glory of being an alpha dog

It is normal to try to change your man, we all do, and frankly, they need a good woman in their lives, we all know it. We try to change our man for the better with or without chastity. Chastity is just another tool, and a powerful one at that. But he also needs to be strong for us and change us where we go wrong, be our knight in shiny armor, say no when we really need someone to tell us no.

Chastity may seem severe to you, but remember, he isn’t looking at it that way. To him it is a sexual turn on, something that helps him harness (not waste) his arousal and gives him rare but mind blowing orgasms. In his mind, handing his orgasms over to you, without any say in the matter is a powerful, erotic game that turns him wild and horny. He doesn’t necessarily see it as giving power away, but as giving something up to gain something. When he married you he gave up fooling around and dating a multitude of women just to be with you. You didn’t think it weird or emasculating that he gave you the (contractual!) power to insist on monogamy. He gave up whoring around and staying out with friends all night in order to be with you. He even gave up being the master of his domain and shares your house with you, allowing you to nest and make all the important decisions in that domain, while he has focused his influence elsewhere, out of the house (that would be a cave if he was in charge, let’s be honest).

He didn’t give all this up (women, partying, irresponsible friends, total control over his cave) out of a sense of weakness, but out of a sense of gain. He gained you, all the rest was small change.

His orgasm denial through chastity fantasy is a similar process - this time he doesn’t just give up his freedom to fool around with other women for the bliss of monogamy (the only way he could win you), he also gives up his freedom to masturbate and orgasm at any given time. Why? Because he gains the gift of constant arousal, a search for the real you, the hunt for you heart through gifts, little moments of attention and spoiling you leading to a tantric connection of body and soul that eventually, very slowly, leads to a mind blowing orgasm.

But in order to achieve this, he has to move beyond his addiction to cheap thrill quick orgasms. The chastity device saves him from giving in to spur of the moment temptations. But the chastity also leads to a heightened state of arousal. That’s where you come in. To act as a balance to his higher-than-usual erotic energy, and his desire for sex all of the time, you are given the power to control all sensual and sexual activities. It must be this way. Otherwise he would be masturbating after 2 days, keeping his prolactin levels high (they need significant time, up to 2 weeks, to completely dissipate) and never achieving the dopamine rush he strives for through chastity.

It is true that some dominant oriented women use chastity to make their men submit to every silly whim, they are really missing out on bringing out the full potential of their husbands. You should strive to be equal partners, correcting where your partner is weak but encouraging him to fulfill his potential and take a leadership position in the world. After all, you are raising his dopamine and testosterone levels and increase his confidence by having him court the most beautiful woman in the world. He will want to impress you with his worth and compete with others to show you how deserving he is of you, just like you were dating. Use the chastity to steer him in the right direction and set goals for you and your family (a pay raise, more time spent with the kids, fulfilling his dream and taking steps to make you feel happy and fulfilled). Let him use his increased energy and positive attitude to fulfill his unique potential in the world and prove his worth to you.

In conclusion

Where the request for chastity may have seemed bizarre at first, now that we understand that the male psychology revolves around overcoming obstacles to move to conquest, we understand that placing the object of his desire enough out of his reach that he has to work hard for it makes him happy. In return for his hard work, we can become the most beautiful and fulfilling woman to him, aid in keeping him aroused and on a dopamine high and provide him with mind blowing orgasms when the mood strikes us. We gain to, by a heightened sense of romance, a dashing suitor who continuously looks for our hand, an animal in bed who will find new and exciting ways to initiate sex and make our bodies orgasm, without the need to always come themselves or suffer from a post orgasm hangover.

6 weeks ago I thought his fantasy was a bit odd and nearly didn't do it for him but it has been the best 6 weeks of my adult life - I can't wait for each evening to come and I've never felt this close to a partner in 20 years of relationships. I've bought plenty of outrageous new outfits to keep him on the edge. It is really ironic that, after 20 years of relationships with, for the most part, disappointing sex, I am now getting the sexual fulfilment I have longed for - with my partner locked in a chastity belt and only having had 'normal' penetrative sex once in 6 weeks !

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